Love Languages

      How does your partner feel loved? Better question, how do YOU feel loved? After a hard day, what would make you feel better? A hug from your partner? Going on a walk with them? Having them reassure you with words? Letting them do the dishes for you? Having them bring you home your favorite milkshake? Although this may seem like an insignificant question to you, I hope it's at least a thought provoking one. I hope you really are able to ponder how you and your partner both feel loved and comforted. It is one of the main keys to a successful marriage.
     For clarification and to make sure we're all on the same page right now, let me tell you what the love languages are. You have physical touch, words of affirmation, giving/receiving gifts, acts of service, and quality time. Hopefully these are pretty self explanatory but if not, there's a link to the quiz and the definitions of everything in the paragraph below :)
     I'm sure most of you have heard of this love language quiz (If not, here's the link to figure it out :) Love Language Quiz) but have you kept up with your partners love language? See, as humans, we change. As we grow older, we change. And therefore, our interests, desires, taste buds, and love languages all change as well. We need to regularly (like, every couple years) ask our partner what their love language is to make sure we can still make them happy.
     Although our partner hopefully knows that they are loved always and forever, it's important to know and understand the best way they can feel that love for you. Everyone is different and the way we feel is different. Love your partner and know how to do it.

Needs

What are your needs in marriage? What do you expect your partner to do for you? Everyone has needs in their marriage, but everybody's needs are not the same, especially between you and your husband.

General Needs for Men are:
1. Sexual Fulfillment 
2. Recreational Companionship
3. A Spouse they are Attracted to
4. Domestic Support

General Needs for Women are:
1. Affection
2. Conversation
3.Honesty & Openness
4. Financial Support
5. Family Commitment

Even though these may not be you or you spouse's needs, it is beneficial to help you think about your needs.

The first steps to meet each others needs are:
1. Talk about them openly
2. Discuss them thoroughly
3. Be clear & specific on how you will go about meeting each others needs.

When our needs are met we are happier, and if we are happier then we will have a happier marriage.